The First Marriage of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (2022-02-19) ​

0:00:03 in this video i'm going to tell the
0:00:06 story of the prophet muhammad upon whom
0:00:08 the peace's first marriage and it's a
0:00:10 lovely story and i'm going to be reading
0:00:13 from muhammad his life based on the
0:00:15 earliest sources by martin lings chapter
0:00:19 12 questions of marriage
0:00:23 muhammad had now passed his 20th year
0:00:26 and as time went on he received more and
0:00:29 more invitations to join one or another
0:00:33 of his kinsmen on their travels abroad
0:00:37 finally the day came when he was asked
0:00:39 to take charge of the goods of a
0:00:42 merchant who was unable to travel
0:00:44 himself
0:00:45 and his success in this capacity led to
0:00:49 other similar engagements
0:00:51 he was thus able to earn a better
0:00:54 livelihood and marriage became a
0:00:56 possibility
0:00:59 his uncle and guardian abu talib had at
0:01:02 that time three sons the eldest talib
0:01:06 was about the same age as muhammad
0:01:09 himself
0:01:10 akhil was 13 or 14 and jafar was a boy
0:01:14 of four
0:01:16 muhammad was fond of children and liked
0:01:19 to play with them
0:01:20 and he grew especially attached to jafar
0:01:23 who was a beautiful and intelligent
0:01:26 child
0:01:27 and who responded to his cousin's love
0:01:30 with a devotion that proved to be
0:01:32 lasting
0:01:34 abu talib also had daughters and one of
0:01:37 these was already of marriageable age
0:01:41 her name was fakita but later she was
0:01:45 called um hani
0:01:47 and it is by that name that she is
0:01:50 always known
0:01:52 a great affection had grown up between
0:01:54 her and muhammad who now asked his uncle
0:01:58 to let him marry her
0:02:01 but abu talib had other plans for his
0:02:04 daughter
0:02:06 his cousin who bera the son of his
0:02:09 mother's brother of the clan of maxim
0:02:12 had likewise asked for the hand of um
0:02:16 hani
0:02:17 and hubera was not only a man of some
0:02:20 substance but he was also like abu talib
0:02:24 himself a gifted poet
0:02:28 moreover the power of maxim in mecca was
0:02:32 as much on the increase as that of
0:02:34 hashim was on the wane
0:02:38 and it was to hubera that abu talev
0:02:41 married um hani
0:02:44 while his nephew mahdi reproached him he
0:02:47 simply replied they have given us their
0:02:50 daughters in marriage no doubt referring
0:02:53 to his own mother
0:02:55 and a generous man must requite
0:02:58 generosity
0:03:00 the answer was unconvincing in as much
0:03:03 as abd al-muttalib had already more than
0:03:06 repaid the debt in question by marrying
0:03:08 two of his daughters
0:03:10 atika and bara to men of maxim
0:03:15 muhammad no doubt took his uncle's words
0:03:18 as a courteous and kindly substitute for
0:03:21 telling him plainly that he was not yet
0:03:24 in a position to marry
0:03:27 that at any rate is what he now decided
0:03:30 for himself
0:03:32 but unexpected circumstances were soon
0:03:35 to induce him to change his mind
0:03:40 one of the richer merchants of mecca was
0:03:42 a woman khadijah
0:03:44 daughter of kuwalid of the clan of assad
0:03:49 she was first cousin to warricka the
0:03:52 christian
0:03:54 and his sister kutayla and like them she
0:03:57 was a distant cousin to the sons of
0:04:00 hashem
0:04:01 she had already been married twice
0:04:04 and since the death of her second
0:04:06 husband it had been her custom to hire
0:04:09 men to trade on her
0:04:12 behalf now muhammad had come to be known
0:04:16 throughout mecca as al-amin
0:04:19 the reliable the trustworthy the honest
0:04:23 and this was initially owing to the
0:04:25 reports of those who had entrusted their
0:04:28 merchandise to him on various occasions
0:04:32 khadijah had also heard much good of him
0:04:35 from family sources and one day she sent
0:04:38 word to him asking him to take some of
0:04:41 her merchandise
0:04:42 to syria
0:04:44 his fee would be the double of the
0:04:46 highest she had ever paid to a man of
0:04:49 croatia
0:04:50 and she offered him for the journey the
0:04:52 services of a lad of hers named maysara
0:04:57 he accepted what she proposed and
0:04:59 accompanied by the lad
0:05:02 he set off with her goods for the north
0:05:06 when they reached bostra in the south of
0:05:09 syria muhammad took shelter beneath the
0:05:12 shadow of a tree not far from the cell
0:05:15 of a monk named nestor
0:05:19 since traveller's halts often remained
0:05:21 unchanged it could have been the
0:05:24 self-same tree under which he had
0:05:26 sheltered some 15 years previously on
0:05:30 his way through bostra with his uncle
0:05:33 perhaps bahira had died and been
0:05:36 replaced by nostra
0:05:38 however that may be for we only know
0:05:41 what masara reported
0:05:43 the monk came out of his cell and asked
0:05:46 the lad
0:05:47 who is the man beneath that tree
0:05:51 he is a man of quraish said masara
0:05:54 adding by way of explanation
0:05:57 of the people who have guardianship of
0:06:00 the sanctuary
0:06:03 none other than a prophet is sitting
0:06:05 beneath that tree said nestor
0:06:09 and martin lings in his biography here
0:06:11 as little footnote at the bottom which
0:06:13 is worth really worth reading out he
0:06:16 says
0:06:17 according to islamic tradition muhammad
0:06:20 is none other than the mysterious
0:06:22 shirloth
0:06:24 to whom could would be transferred
0:06:27 in the latter days the spiritual
0:06:29 authority which until then had remained
0:06:33 the prerogative of the jews
0:06:35 jesus himself having been the last
0:06:37 prophet of the line of judah
0:06:41 the prophecy in question was made by
0:06:44 jacob immediately before his death and
0:06:47 martin lingzen quotes in genesis chapter
0:06:50 49 and i quote
0:06:52 and jacob called unto his sons and said
0:06:57 gather yourselves together that i may
0:06:59 tell you that which shall be for you in
0:07:02 the last days
0:07:04 the scepter shall not depart from judah
0:07:08 nor a law giver from beneath his feet
0:07:11 until
0:07:12 shiloh come
0:07:14 and unto him shall the gathering of the
0:07:17 people be
0:07:19 genesis chapter 49 fascinating prophecy
0:07:24 and then martin ling's continues
0:07:26 as they went on further into syria the
0:07:29 words of nestor sank deep into the soul
0:07:33 of masara but they did not greatly
0:07:36 surprise him for he had become aware
0:07:38 throughout the journey that he was in
0:07:40 the company of a man unlike any other he
0:07:44 had ever met
0:07:46 this was still further confirmed by
0:07:48 something he saw on his way home
0:07:52 he had often noticed that the heat was
0:07:54 strangely unoppressive
0:07:57 and one day towards noon in other words
0:08:00 the hottest part of the day
0:08:02 it was given to him to have a brief but
0:08:04 clear vision of two angels
0:08:07 shading muhammad from the sun's rays
0:08:11 wow
0:08:12 on reaching mecca they went to khajiit's
0:08:15 house with the goods they had bought in
0:08:17 the markets of syria for the price of
0:08:19 what they had sold
0:08:21 khadijah sat listening to muhammad as he
0:08:24 described the journey and told her of
0:08:27 the transactions he had made
0:08:30 these proved to be very profitable for
0:08:33 she was able to sell her newly acquired
0:08:35 assets for almost the double of what had
0:08:38 been paid for them
0:08:40 such but such considerations were far
0:08:44 from her thoughts for all her attention
0:08:47 was concentrated on the speaker himself
0:08:52 muhammad was 25 years old
0:08:55 he was of medium stature inclined to
0:08:59 slimness with a large head broad
0:09:01 shoulders and the rest of his body
0:09:04 perfectly proportioned
0:09:06 his hair and beard were thick and black
0:09:09 not altogether straight but slightly
0:09:12 curled
0:09:13 his hair
0:09:15 reached midway between the lobes of his
0:09:17 ears and his shoulders and his beard was
0:09:20 of a length to match
0:09:22 he had a noble breath of forehead and
0:09:25 the ovals of his large eyes were wide
0:09:29 with exceptionally long lashes and
0:09:31 extensive brows
0:09:33 slightly arched but not joined
0:09:37 in most of the earliest descriptions his
0:09:40 eyes are said to have been black but
0:09:43 according to one or two of these they
0:09:45 were brown even light brown
0:09:48 his nose was aqualine and his mouth was
0:09:51 wide and finely shaped a comeless always
0:09:55 visible for although he let his beard
0:09:58 grow
0:09:58 he never allowed the hair of his
0:10:00 moustache
0:10:02 to protrude over his upper lip
0:10:06 his skin was white but tanned by the sun
0:10:10 in addition to his natural beauty there
0:10:13 was a light on his face the same which
0:10:16 had shone from his father but in the sun
0:10:20 it was more powerful
0:10:22 and this light was especially apparent
0:10:25 on his broad forehead and in his eyes
0:10:28 which were remarkably luminous
0:10:32 khadijah knew that she herself was still
0:10:36 beautiful but she was 15 years his elder
0:10:40 would he nonetheless be prepared to
0:10:42 marry her
0:10:45 as soon as he was gone she consulted a
0:10:47 woman friend of hers named nuffelsha who
0:10:51 offered to approach him on her behalf
0:10:54 and if possible to arrange a marriage
0:10:57 between them
0:10:59 may sarah now came to his mistress and
0:11:02 told her about the two angels and what
0:11:05 the monk had said whereupon she went to
0:11:08 her cousin waraka
0:11:10 see he's a christian and repeated these
0:11:13 things to him
0:11:15 if this be true khadijah he said
0:11:18 then is muhammad the prophet of our
0:11:22 people
0:11:23 long have i known that a prophet is to
0:11:25 be expected and his time had now come
0:11:32 meanwhile nufisha came to muhammad and
0:11:35 asked him why he did not marry
0:11:38 i have not the means to marry he
0:11:41 answered
0:11:43 but if thou wert given the means she
0:11:45 said and if thou were bidden to an
0:11:48 alliance where there is beauty and
0:11:50 property and nobility and abundance
0:11:53 would thou not consent
0:11:56 who is she he said
0:11:58 khadijah said nufatia
0:12:02 and how could such a marriage be mine he
0:12:04 said
0:12:05 leave that to me was her answer
0:12:09 for my part he said i am willing
0:12:13 nafasia returned with these tidings to
0:12:16 khadijah who then sent word to muhammad
0:12:19 asking him to come to her
0:12:22 and when he came she said to him
0:12:25 son of mine uncle
0:12:28 i love thee for thy kinship with me and
0:12:31 for that thou art ever in the center not
0:12:35 being partisan among the people for this
0:12:38 or for that
0:12:40 and i love thee for thy trustworthiness
0:12:43 and for the beauty of thy character and
0:12:46 for the truth of thy speech
0:12:50 then she offered herself a marriage to
0:12:54 him and they agreed that he should speak
0:12:56 to his uncles and she would speak to her
0:13:00 uncle amma the son of assad
0:13:04 for kuwait hid her
0:13:06 for kuala her father had died
0:13:10 it was hamza despite his relative youth
0:13:13 whom the hashemites delegated to
0:13:15 represent them on this occasion no doubt
0:13:19 because he was the most closely
0:13:20 connected of them with the tribe of
0:13:23 assad
0:13:24 for his four sister safiya had recently
0:13:27 married khadija's brother awam
0:13:30 so hamza went with his nephew to amma
0:13:34 and asked for the hand of khadijah
0:13:38 and it was agreed between them that
0:13:41 muhammad should give her 20 she camels
0:13:44 as
0:13:45 dowry
0:13:47 and there ends that chapter a beautiful
0:13:49 story in the life of the prophet
0:13:51 muhammad upon whom be peace till next
0:13:54 time