Umm Khalid: "Women have been lied to" (2021-12-16) ​

0:00:02 sometimes i come across an article
0:00:04 online that is so powerful that i just
0:00:07 want to share it with you
0:00:10 it's written by a woman um khalid
0:00:14 it's freely available on her facebook
0:00:16 site which i'll link to below and it's i
0:00:20 found it in various places online as i
0:00:22 go around it's quite a popular article
0:00:25 it's powerful punchy knowledgeable
0:00:28 very very articulate and she she thinks
0:00:32 outside of the box she's thinking beyond
0:00:35 the pre-fab confines of how we're
0:00:38 supposed to think about life in the west
0:00:41 whether or not you agree with it it's an
0:00:43 amazing piece of writing and it should
0:00:45 really be read by a woman preferably by
0:00:48 um khalid but in the absence of that i'm
0:00:50 just going to give voice to the words
0:00:52 that she wrote
0:00:54 and it's about women in the west
0:00:57 very hard-hitting and i think she makes
0:01:00 some profound points profound
0:01:03 observations
0:01:05 it begins like this um khalid writes
0:01:09 women have been lied to
0:01:12 continuously for a long time
0:01:15 by a lot of people working together for
0:01:18 their own interest to deceive women and
0:01:21 take advantage of them no i'm not
0:01:24 talking about the patriarchy or muslim
0:01:27 men
0:01:28 i'm talking about certain nihilistic
0:01:30 western atheist elites who have
0:01:33 engineered certain social norms and
0:01:36 programmed people to operate in a very
0:01:39 particular way
0:01:41 for their own agenda and at the expense
0:01:44 of women
0:01:46 this lie was broadcast everywhere all
0:01:49 over the media in hollywood on tv shows
0:01:52 and movies in books and novels in
0:01:54 popular magazines in song lyrics in the
0:01:58 hallowed halls of ivy league academia it
0:02:01 was a concerted
0:02:03 targeted marketing campaign
0:02:07 what was the lie that was told to women
0:02:10 on mass since the 1960s and up until
0:02:14 today
0:02:16 women were told
0:02:17 you can have it all
0:02:20 you can have it all
0:02:22 you the average woman can be everything
0:02:26 and have everything all at once listen
0:02:29 to us and your life will work out
0:02:32 one of the most popular tv shows on
0:02:35 american television was a six season hit
0:02:37 show called sex and the city
0:02:40 and its basic premise is that the modern
0:02:43 woman can have it all
0:02:45 she can be forever young sexy
0:02:48 independent fun-loving and successful
0:02:51 all on her own
0:02:53 she can live a fun fulfilling life in
0:02:56 the big city working a full-time job and
0:02:59 going out with her friends and having
0:03:01 casual sex with random men
0:03:04 there's no need for a marriage no need
0:03:06 for a woman to burden herself with the
0:03:09 heavy weight of marriage a husband or
0:03:12 motherhood just yet all that can wait
0:03:17 but
0:03:18 decades after the show was blasted all
0:03:21 across the u.s and the world
0:03:24 affecting generations of women something
0:03:27 happened
0:03:28 candice bushnell at the age of 60 who
0:03:32 wrote the original 1997 novel which
0:03:35 spawned the successful tv series for hbo
0:03:39 open up to sunday times magazine about
0:03:42 her 2012 divorce
0:03:45 she admitted that it made her realize
0:03:48 how not starting a family made her feel
0:03:51 truly alone
0:03:54 candice said quote
0:03:56 when i was in my 30s and 40s i didn't
0:03:59 think about it
0:04:01 then when i got divorced and i was in my
0:04:04 50s i started to see the impact of not
0:04:07 having children and of truly being alone
0:04:12 i do see now that people with children
0:04:15 have an anchor in a way that people who
0:04:17 have no kids
0:04:19 don't
0:04:20 end quote
0:04:22 but what will all the women do
0:04:25 who were misguided by the show candice
0:04:28 made
0:04:29 this mistake of a show led women
0:04:32 young women astray into lives of empty
0:04:36 consumerism and corporate climbing
0:04:39 what will the show's creator belated
0:04:42 regret do for all these women who got
0:04:45 duped
0:04:46 can it turn
0:04:48 back time
0:04:49 can these women go back and get their
0:04:51 youth back and get married and have a
0:04:53 family earlier
0:04:55 no
0:04:58 there is a book entitled subverted how i
0:05:02 help the sexual revolution hijack the
0:05:05 women's movement
0:05:07 the author is a woman named sue ellen
0:05:10 browder who worked as a longtime
0:05:12 freelance writer for cosmopolitan
0:05:14 magazine one of the most popular women's
0:05:16 magazines that is poured over
0:05:18 religiously by western women
0:05:22 she wrote articles meant to market
0:05:24 unmarried sex contraception and abortion
0:05:28 as the single woman's path to personal
0:05:30 fulfillment
0:05:33 she did not realize until much later
0:05:36 that propagandists higher and cleverer
0:05:39 than herself were influencing her
0:05:41 thinking and her personal choices as
0:05:44 they subverted the women's movement for
0:05:46 their own gain
0:05:50 sue opened openly came out and said that
0:05:53 the writers at cosmopolitan magazine
0:05:56 including herself
0:05:57 lied to women
0:06:00 they sold them a complete and total lie
0:06:04 the aim of the writers was to entice
0:06:06 women away from their families away from
0:06:09 home away from their productive away
0:06:12 from their protective male kin
0:06:15 and into the big cities into their own
0:06:18 apartment and with the freedom to engage
0:06:22 in promiscuous behavior with strange men
0:06:26 no one could have gotten women to act
0:06:28 this way at that time with direct
0:06:31 instructions like abandon your
0:06:33 traditional mindset leave your family
0:06:36 values behind sidestep your male
0:06:38 protection and go sleep around with many
0:06:41 with random men
0:06:43 don't worry about getting married young
0:06:45 or having kids just get your higher
0:06:48 education and form your identity and
0:06:50 your life around your career
0:06:53 who needs men
0:06:56 no you can't say that straight up to
0:06:59 women and expect them to follow these
0:07:01 vile instructions
0:07:04 you have to soft pedal the idea
0:07:07 you have to make it seem exciting and
0:07:11 freeing
0:07:12 you have to carefully manufacture the
0:07:14 desire within women
0:07:17 so that they feel that it's a desire
0:07:19 they naturally have
0:07:22 and
0:07:23 and this is crucial you have to make it
0:07:26 seem necessary by creating worry anxiety
0:07:29 and fear within women around marriage
0:07:32 relationships and men
0:07:34 the fear-mongering goes something like
0:07:37 this
0:07:38 men are abusive men are toxic men will
0:07:42 screw you over and leave you with the
0:07:44 kids and run off with another woman
0:07:47 you better protect yourself you better
0:07:49 learn how to stand on your own two feet
0:07:52 and get your own finances and never
0:07:55 trust a man
0:07:57 get ready to take to make it on your own
0:08:00 after your inevitable divorce
0:08:06 and gradually women slowly started to
0:08:08 respond to this implicit messaging and
0:08:12 cultural brainwashing
0:08:14 they moved out got their own place away
0:08:17 from home got highly educated got on
0:08:20 birth control started working full time
0:08:23 and started having casual sex in lieu of
0:08:27 marriage
0:08:28 if they somehow got pregnant they got
0:08:31 abortions
0:08:32 kids didn't figure into this glamorous
0:08:34 fast-paced independent lifestyle
0:08:38 and these women were turned into
0:08:41 consumers
0:08:43 women were now independent earners in
0:08:45 the capitalist machine
0:08:48 and earners can be converted into
0:08:51 consumers
0:08:53 women read them the women's magazines
0:08:56 and learn to live and think this way
0:08:59 every girl wants to be a cosmo girl
0:09:03 but sue ellen browder the writer who
0:09:06 wrote those cosmo articles herself
0:09:10 converted to catholicism
0:09:13 to the roman catholic church and
0:09:15 repented
0:09:16 feeling guilty over what she did and how
0:09:20 she blatantly lied to millions of women
0:09:24 and so she wrote her book
0:09:27 here are some interesting words
0:09:30 some female readers of the book
0:09:32 subverted had to
0:09:34 say
0:09:36 i am almost three-quarters of a century
0:09:39 old i lived these lies i was taken in by
0:09:43 the cool aid of these lies i am grateful
0:09:46 for the platform for which browder
0:09:48 exposes these lies the whole house of
0:09:51 cards needs to fall down the american
0:09:53 family has almost been devastated by
0:09:56 these lies
0:09:57 any civilization that kills its young in
0:10:00 the womb
0:10:01 and rips the mother out of the family
0:10:03 unit
0:10:04 will fall
0:10:07 another person wrote about the book
0:10:09 this book blows the whistle on the
0:10:11 events which led to the hijacking of the
0:10:14 women's liberation movement by cynical
0:10:17 exploitative nihilistic individuals
0:10:21 shows the resulting societal maladies
0:10:24 widespread divorce sex without love
0:10:27 feminization of poverty
0:10:29 pervasive fear and angst and i would add
0:10:33 deepening confusion about personal
0:10:35 identity for both men and women
0:10:40 another commentator wrote the
0:10:43 unattainable cosmo girl is a fabrication
0:10:46 and a harmful one at that a total lie
0:10:50 another wrote this book helps us see
0:10:54 that she was too glib with the new party
0:10:57 line that said it sought to free women
0:11:00 from men and from offspring and how it
0:11:03 bravely invented false stats to get its
0:11:06 own way a way no longer recommended by
0:11:09 sue who used to preach it
0:11:12 stats incidentally still cited today as
0:11:15 if
0:11:16 gospel truth by those who wish to
0:11:19 believe them and maintain the bondage
0:11:23 two to see how in all the ups and downs
0:11:26 of marriage and motherhood
0:11:28 it is still the way to go
0:11:31 end quote
0:11:32 this is the background to which the
0:11:34 modern world we live in today
0:11:38 these are some of the factors that have
0:11:40 shaped the society many muslims have
0:11:42 immigrated to over the past several
0:11:45 decades
0:11:46 we muslims send our kids to these
0:11:49 schools and our kids watch these movies
0:11:52 and tv shows and our daughters read
0:11:56 these popular magazines
0:11:59 add to these western cultural influences
0:12:02 the baggage we bring with us from some
0:12:04 of our own muslim countries
0:12:07 an obsession with prestigious degrees
0:12:09 and higher education a desire for status
0:12:12 for the family
0:12:14 greed
0:12:15 and a deep inferiority complex around
0:12:18 the west and a sycophantic wish to
0:12:21 assimilate
0:12:24 and then our daughters grow up to be
0:12:27 young women who suddenly and seemingly
0:12:31 inexplicably
0:12:32 want to make sure they are financially
0:12:35 stable and independent because you never
0:12:39 know and just in case because many men
0:12:42 are abusive and lots of toxic
0:12:45 masculinity exists and maybe divorce
0:12:47 will happen and what if the husband dies
0:12:51 or cheats
0:12:53 this angst suspicion and worry can be
0:12:57 traced back to the old social messaging
0:13:00 and deliberate engineering
0:13:05 most muslim women don't obey the
0:13:08 societal dictates fully
0:13:10 to the extent of sleeping around and
0:13:12 getting multiple abortions
0:13:14 though unfortunately some muslim women
0:13:17 do
0:13:18 this is not how we're followed that this
0:13:22 is not how we followed the non-muslims
0:13:24 into the lizard hole
0:13:26 which is alluding to a hadith there i
0:13:28 think
0:13:30 how we have followed them is
0:13:33 having contempt for our men
0:13:35 looking at marriage with suspicion and
0:13:38 fear
0:13:39 expecting the worst in marriage in the
0:13:42 name of protecting ourselves
0:13:44 delaying marriage in favor of education
0:13:48 and or career
0:13:50 denigrating motherhood denigrating
0:13:53 wifehood having mistrust with the
0:13:55 husband
0:13:57 and rising divorce rates in the muslim
0:14:00 community
0:14:02 we are operating from a place of fear
0:14:06 manufactured fear to turn us from wives
0:14:11 and mothers
0:14:12 into earners who can be turned into
0:14:16 consumers
0:14:18 our aspirations are based on lies
0:14:22 islam
0:14:24 is the truth
0:14:27 um
0:14:28 khalid
0:14:31 wow
0:14:33 and as i say i will leave a link to the
0:14:36 article below
0:14:37 uh powerful stuff agree or disagree i
0:14:40 think it has much to tell us about our
0:14:43 situation in the west at the moment till
0:14:45 next time