Was Feminism Created by a Man? (2021-10-07) ​

0:00:00 the famous line
0:00:01 the comfortable concentration the home
0:00:03 is a comfortable concentration camp
0:00:05 what was it um
0:00:15 has been translated it's very you know
0:00:18 that she's she is a
0:00:20 you know prisoner in her house
0:00:22 by the way
0:00:23 she actually retracted this very
0:00:25 interesting in her book called second
0:00:26 stage which she wrote some 10 years
0:00:28 after or something like this she said
0:00:29 this was a big extreme for me to say
0:00:30 that
0:00:31 people don't realize she made a hell of
0:00:33 a lot of retractions
0:00:35 why does she make retractions i'll tell
0:00:36 you why she made retractions
0:00:38 she made retractions because in the year
0:00:40 1970
0:00:41 she wrote a book called the second stage
0:00:43 you can you can get this book and she
0:00:44 realized by doing these kind of
0:00:46 sociological investigations that women
0:00:48 were actually having things worse that
0:00:50 things were getting worse for women i'm
0:00:51 going to read something from her book
0:00:52 right now
0:00:54 she said that women are experiencing
0:00:55 more signs of psychological stress than
0:00:57 women in their 20s and 30s had in the
0:00:59 50s and early 60s she admits
0:01:02 listen to what she says and we're more
0:01:04 likely to feel on edge of a nervous
0:01:06 breakdown than young men she says so
0:01:09 this is after what after the civil
0:01:11 rights movement after the implementation
0:01:12 of equal rights act after women are
0:01:13 going to work after all of the the
0:01:16 discussion about feminism after women
0:01:17 were burning bras after after after so
0:01:20 she goes and checks to see if women are
0:01:21 happy now because of what she's done and
0:01:23 she realized actually women are sadder
0:01:24 they're worse off their welfare has been
0:01:26 affected in the negative
0:01:28 and she says that she admits this in her
0:01:29 book the second stage which by the way
0:01:31 you don't find in curricula you don't
0:01:33 find the syllabi this book second stage
0:01:35 you find feminine mystique even
0:01:38 gcse and a levels they don't teach any
0:01:40 kids about the second stage it's a book
0:01:42 she wrote and in fact it's a book she
0:01:44 wrote after the book feminine mystique
0:01:45 but because it has all these admissions
0:01:47 these dirty admissions that she puts and
0:01:49 she tells us the truth about
0:01:51 you don't want to we don't want to we
0:01:52 want to hide this under the cup do we
0:01:55 women 35 to 39 103 she says in the same
0:01:59 book
0:02:00 in the 1970s experienced a nervous
0:02:02 breakdown which was is more than a 10
0:02:04 increase
0:02:05 which is in sociological terms quite
0:02:07 heavy
0:02:08 so she realized
0:02:10 based on her own study this is betty
0:02:12 friday we're talking about that more
0:02:13 women were suffering
0:02:16 after the implementation of all of these
0:02:17 things and after they go into work and
0:02:19 after they she's they've they've taken
0:02:20 up all these attitudes towards domestic
0:02:23 domesticity
0:02:24 and the family and the home and the
0:02:25 motherhood and all these things
0:02:27 you see
0:02:31 and she even admits quite interesting in
0:02:32 the book she goes women have a profound
0:02:34 human impulse to have children well you
0:02:36 weren't saying that before
0:02:37 all the tone has changed now has it when
0:02:39 you see women are suffering and coming
0:02:41 to you and crying and nervous breakdowns
0:02:42 now you're saying well actually women
0:02:44 have a profound
0:02:45 instinct she says or impulse sorry to
0:02:47 have children well you weren't saying
0:02:48 that before fridan she realizes what she
0:02:52 put women in but is she the only one
0:02:54 you'll be surprised she's not the only
0:02:55 one in 1981 after realizing the
0:02:57 troubling psychological impact of women
0:02:58 fridan states this let me just go with
0:03:01 for a second she has we had better find
0:03:03 a change
0:03:04 but change is hard because this is what
0:03:06 she says unbelievable unbelievable what
0:03:08 she says listen to this
0:03:10 she goes
0:03:11 because women have almost a religious
0:03:13 feeling about the woman's movement
0:03:15 allah
0:03:18 she says we've got to change this now
0:03:20 this is 20 years after that she goes
0:03:21 because we're now becoming it's like
0:03:22 feminism has become religion who's
0:03:24 saying that betsy friedan one of the
0:03:26 founding mothers of feminism she goes i
0:03:28 realize we have to make a change she's
0:03:30 saying this i realize we have to make a
0:03:31 change but what but it's difficult now
0:03:33 because women have a what a religious
0:03:35 feeling towards feminism can you imagine
0:03:38 this
0:03:39 a sacredness a reverence an oh this is
0:03:42 what she continues it keeps us from
0:03:44 asking questions about what really
0:03:45 matters to women now
0:03:47 so
0:03:49 you see it's really negatively impacted
0:03:50 women she realizes that
0:03:52 she wants to change that but she can't
0:03:54 because she's already created a monster
0:03:56 she's already created the frankenstein
0:03:58 of feminism she's already helped
0:04:00 contribute to that and now she's trying
0:04:02 to pull women back actually we're going
0:04:04 too far no it's too far the frankenstein
0:04:06 has already been created and and you
0:04:08 know who's suffering for it women are
0:04:10 suffering more because of him
0:04:12 and one of the most powerful things i've
0:04:14 ever read
0:04:15 from a feminist
0:04:17 is from jermaine grey
0:04:18 in her book in 1981 the whole woman
0:04:20 remember jeremiah was one of the
0:04:21 founding mothers of feminism see her see
0:04:23 her online how she's coming with
0:04:25 arrogance and talking and smoking
0:04:26 cigarette and this and that and she's
0:04:28 she's with confidence talking about how
0:04:30 important it is and attacking
0:04:31 domesticity attacking this and quality
0:04:33 and all that kind of and what
0:04:34 she comes in 1981 she goes i mourn for
0:04:36 my unborn babies
0:04:39 i mourn for my unborn babies she says
0:04:43 this is two of your big names
0:04:45 two already we're going to come to the
0:04:46 third one which is the worst one by the
0:04:48 way where she said i'm mourned for my
0:04:49 unborn babies she said
0:04:51 she goes i still have pregnancy dreams
0:04:55 she's exposing herself waiting with vast
0:04:57 joy something that will never happen
0:04:59 because she's over past the age of
0:05:00 pregnancy never happened allah akbar
0:05:02 it's a punishment for you because you
0:05:04 are telling all the women it's you're
0:05:06 telling all the women that motherhood is
0:05:07 xyz and all that now you'll be punished
0:05:09 because you realize that actually you
0:05:10 suppressed your instinct and you hurt
0:05:12 yourself you only hurt you you're
0:05:13 playing with fire you played with fire
0:05:15 and you got burned
0:05:19 who is the ani if you wanna if you wanna
0:05:22 put the main the main woman of feminism
0:05:25 in the second wave is
0:05:26 the second sex because it had been
0:05:29 probably the most robust and thorough
0:05:31 philosophical work that had been done on
0:05:33 feminism and up until the third wave it
0:05:35 was the main way in which uh scholars of
0:05:38 feminism would argue for feminism okay
0:05:41 this is what she says
0:05:44 we know we know her thought right she
0:05:46 attacks
0:05:47 the institution of motherhood she
0:05:49 attacks
0:05:50 domesticity she she she talks about
0:05:53 you know how it's so oppressive to be a
0:05:55 you know man and biologically even
0:05:58 and these things but she says the
0:05:59 following she goes she was talking about
0:06:01 she had a boyfriend his name was satra
0:06:02 john paul satra a huge philosopher big
0:06:04 name imagine now she's telling women not
0:06:07 to have what
0:06:08 husbands or this she's telling them not
0:06:09 to have husbands yeah not to be married
0:06:11 not to have kids but listen to what she
0:06:13 says about her own boyfriend listen to
0:06:14 what she said she goes i felt dominated
0:06:16 by someone else intellectually
0:06:19 sartre lived up to the man i had dreamt
0:06:21 up until 15. i was simply not in his
0:06:23 class well i have not seen one single
0:06:25 muslim woman to ever say that
0:06:27 with the most complementarian lifestyle
0:06:29 she's an egalitarian she said i've never
0:06:31 heard anything i've dominated by my
0:06:32 husband i was not even in his class
0:06:34 the most traditionalist woman
0:06:37 the amish i've never said this is what
0:06:39 so you're telling women not to have uh
0:06:40 kids you're telling women not to she's
0:06:42 like the devil wallahi she is like
0:06:43 shaytaan sorry let me just go into
0:06:45 release this goes for that
0:06:55 like the devil he says go and do this
0:06:57 belief and when he does it he says i've
0:06:59 got nothing to do with you in her own
0:07:00 life what's she doing she's saying
0:07:01 you're my superior i'm not even in your
0:07:03 class but she was she's writing in her
0:07:05 books as well
0:07:06 she's writing
0:07:07 don't get married don't have children
0:07:09 don't allow this from the man it's like
0:07:11 this nonsense hypocrite she's a nonsense
0:07:13 hypocrite
0:07:16 she wasn't even married
0:07:18 we'll come on to it she wishes she was
0:07:19 as she even admits well not this but she
0:07:22 goes i was simply not in his class she
0:07:24 she looked in the mirror
0:07:26 just like you added she said something
0:07:28 that you said she i detest my own
0:07:29 reflection
0:07:34 she goes
0:07:35 if at least my own thought had given
0:07:37 birth to a hill a rocket but nothing had
0:07:40 has taken place i'm astonished to
0:07:42 realize how thoroughly i have been
0:07:44 cheated cheated by who are you talking
0:07:45 about by yourself you cheated
0:07:48 yourself
0:07:49 yeah she's writing her autobiography she
0:07:51 thought we didn't read
0:07:52 she
0:07:53 then she also admits i don't know she
0:07:55 thinks it's a diary entry
0:07:57 she writes the following she goes
0:07:59 before her boyfriend satra came from
0:08:01 paris she was preparing her new
0:08:02 independent home in paris and waiting
0:08:04 for the return of satra from paris new
0:08:06 furniture is brought the walls are
0:08:08 papered and new clothes are purchased
0:08:11 oh you're trying to make an effort for
0:08:12 him are you
0:08:14 you're trying to make an effort for him
0:08:15 either but you tell the woman to what
0:08:17 not to get married but you wish you were
0:08:18 married you wish you had that commitment
0:08:21 he called her one time he said to her
0:08:23 because you know she came back home she
0:08:24 wasn't there she said you're like a mere
0:08:25 housewife
0:08:27 and obviously in their understanding
0:08:28 this is a huge embarrassment
0:08:30 she says i was furious with myself to
0:08:32 have disappointed him in this way
0:08:36 and you know he's the one by the way if
0:08:38 you look at her autobiography he
0:08:39 persuaded her
0:08:41 he's the one who persuaded her to write
0:08:42 the second sex so we have a valid
0:08:44 question here was second wave feminism
0:08:47 created by satra by a man was he the one
0:08:49 doing all the work was he the one
0:08:50 pushing her to do these things
0:08:52 why because it is in the benefit we're
0:08:54 going to come to realize it's in the
0:08:55 benefit of a man
0:08:56 it is this is what women don't
0:08:58 understand please some women do of
0:09:00 course but some women don't
0:09:02 feminist women
0:09:03 that feminism second wave benefits the
0:09:06 man
0:09:06 psychologically as we'll find more than
0:09:08 it benefits the woman he doesn't need to
0:09:10 commit
0:09:11 he doesn't need to have kids he doesn't
0:09:12 need all those things he can move him
0:09:13 one woman to another use and abuse
0:09:16 lash and dash he can
0:09:20 this is uh this is the situation
0:09:23 but
0:09:24 let's not uh mention that
0:09:27 what we should mention is some
0:09:28 sociological investigations and the
0:09:29 biggest one that's ever been done that i
0:09:31 know of
0:09:32 is this one that is mentioned it's
0:09:33 mentioned in the poem as well do you
0:09:35 remember what the lines were
0:09:39 yeah this is the last that's going
0:09:41 through
0:09:43 yeah this is the mirror
0:09:44 it's blanche flower and oswald this is
0:09:47 the name of the study 2000 okay a
0:09:49 hundred thousand participants a
0:09:50 longitudinal study from the years 1970
0:09:53 to the years 1990 in the uk and the us
0:09:56 huge study very difficult to replicate
0:09:59 and this is what the researchers said
0:10:02 that men are happier and women are
0:10:03 sadder
0:10:05 in the time period after the feminist
0:10:06 movement has taken force and after all
0:10:08 the laws have been placed and after the
0:10:10 attitudes have changed and after women
0:10:12 are going to work why are they happy on
0:10:13 the saddle well because let me tell you
0:10:14 why
0:10:15 because
0:10:17 they say legislative reform and so on
0:10:20 has not been successful in either
0:10:21 country in either
0:10:23 uh sorry in our country in creating
0:10:26 or uh on right raising the well-being
0:10:28 among women is the core is messed up a
0:10:30 little bit on the flights but that's you
0:10:32 see
0:10:35 this big thing is saying what in fact
0:10:37 the same study said you know who was
0:10:39 getting happier
0:10:40 men were getting happier they're getting
0:10:42 what they want
0:10:43 the commitment issues have gone down he
0:10:45 doesn't have to extract his resources
0:10:46 for her he can do he's got more money
0:10:48 now he can just
0:10:50 use her
0:10:51 move from woman to woman she's she's the
0:10:53 one she wants security she's the one
0:10:54 psychologically primed for these things
0:10:56 you want to play this game with a man
0:10:58 and you think you're going to be happier
0:11:00 you don't know what you're doing you've
0:11:01 created 20 years longitudinal study it
0:11:04 tells us that in fact your the the
0:11:07 welfare of women has degenerated
0:11:09 considerably or exponentially as a
0:11:11 result of what
0:11:12 as a result or after at least these
0:11:16 policies had been implemented
0:11:18 now
0:11:19 why is this the case or what should we
0:11:21 think about
0:11:22 i mean feminists know even the second
0:11:24 word feminist that there are differences
0:11:25 considerable physiological and
0:11:27 psychological and
0:11:28 even biological as we know differences
0:11:30 between men and women
0:11:33 but basically their argument is despite
0:11:35 all of these differences that we should
0:11:37 be treated the same
0:11:39 now the burden of proof is upon the one
0:11:40 who's making the claim why do we need to
0:11:42 be on the back
0:11:44 if they if someone asks you why is it
0:11:45 different for whatever ruling it is in
0:11:47 islam or whatever other system even
0:11:50 that differentiates between ruling and
0:11:51 men and women so why is it different why
0:11:53 should it be the same in fact
0:11:55 plato he made a very interesting quote
0:11:57 aristotle quotes him he says treat like
0:12:00 cases as like meaning identical things
0:12:03 should be treated identically
0:12:05 and different things by extension should
0:12:06 be treated well
0:12:08 differently
0:12:09 now your feminism doesn't accommodate
0:12:11 for the differences between men and
0:12:12 women that's a failure that means it has
0:12:15 less explanatory scope
0:12:17 now why should we cover for their
0:12:19 failure or even accept it as a
0:12:20 presupposition for answering their
0:12:21 questions they're asking why is it that
0:12:23 will come to it but why is the
0:12:24 inheritance difference why is polygamy
0:12:26 why is man can marry this and that why
0:12:28 should it be the same in fact
0:12:32 why is there an assumption of legality
0:12:34 of absolute equality this assumption
0:12:36 itself is unsubstantiated and in fact
0:12:38 they need to argue from first principles
0:12:41 they need to argue why it should be true
0:12:42 different things should be treated the
0:12:43 same
0:12:45 they need to argue that not us
0:12:47 and in fact this is one of the key
0:12:49 reasons
0:12:51 and very important here
0:12:52 why read that happens why apostasy
0:12:54 happens so why shack
0:12:56 happens
0:12:57 why
0:12:58 happens in a deen or a doubt and we
0:13:00 because we've been in the back foot for
0:13:01 too long have not been able to answer
0:13:03 this properly the way we answer is sorry
0:13:05 are you is the assumption that different
0:13:07 things should be treated the same
0:13:09 we believe
0:13:10 that
0:13:11 identicality and value does not mean
0:13:14 so equality and value does not mean
0:13:15 identica that identicality in rules one
0:13:18 more time
0:13:19 equality of value we do believe men and
0:13:21 women are equal in value yeah and
0:13:22 spiritual value they are equal equality
0:13:25 of value is not equivalent to
0:13:26 identicality and roles this is extremely
0:13:29 important sentence to memorize it
0:13:31 if they want
0:13:32 to tell us
0:13:34 that it should be the case they have to
0:13:36 argue for it it's not me that has to
0:13:37 argue for it
0:13:38 but you know what sometimes it's quite
0:13:40 easy
0:13:41 and it's quite straightforward if we
0:13:42 point to them the difference is between
0:13:43 men and women because some of them are
0:13:45 actually ignorant of it even though the
0:13:46 feminist founding fathers were not
0:13:47 ignorant of it and in the chapter
0:13:49 biology but the bovac she goes women are
0:13:52 weaker than men she will lose to them in
0:13:53 the fight she has less control of
0:13:55 herself and paraphrasing but that's the
0:13:56 idea she says in all this thing but
0:13:59 sometimes you have to show them that
0:14:00 that is that is a fact
0:14:02 let's let's giving
0:14:04 let's give some examples of that