Forced marriage discussion: Nouman Ali & Abdul Basit (2012-07-21) ​

0:00:00 parents who force their children into
0:00:01 marriage will face jail time under new
0:00:03 British law it is necessary to make this
0:00:05 a crime because it's an absolutely out
0:00:08 for too long in this country we've sort
0:00:09 of thought well it's a cultural practice
0:00:12 and we just have to run with it we don't
0:00:15 all the valarium initiate one regime
0:00:18 bismillah ar-rahman ar-rahim at hamdu
0:00:21 lillahi rabbil alameen jazakallah khair
0:00:24 for joining us on our youtube channel
0:00:26 the islamic resource today we're going
0:00:30 to try to discuss the issue of forced
0:00:33 marriages recently in june 2012 a new
0:00:37 law was passed in the UK which stopped
0:00:40 forced marriages taken place the UK and
0:00:42 if anyone's found doing this to their
0:00:44 children they could face the possibility
0:00:46 of imprisonment when this issue was law
0:00:50 when this law was passed many people try
0:00:52 to make the link between forced
0:00:54 marriages and Islam what we're going to
0:00:57 try to do today to break down the
0:00:59 argument or break down the understanding
0:01:00 of forced marriages and give the Islamic
0:01:03 opinion or the Islamic ruling on what
0:01:06 forced marriages are and are they a part
0:01:08 of Islam Charlotte today we are we're
0:01:12 honored to be joined by brother
0:01:13 abdelbaset abdelbaset Masha Allah has
0:01:16 been a dear friend of mine for many
0:01:18 years and he is travel the world giving
0:01:20 dower doing lectures and learning his
0:01:23 Deen he's been involved in the doubt for
0:01:25 the last 10 15 years Masha Allah and has
0:01:28 a lot to offer in terms of evidence is
0:01:30 proved an understanding of the Dean so I
0:01:33 hummed alert today we will try to break
0:01:35 down these arguments so where do we
0:01:39 start to get an understanding of this
0:01:41 issue of forced marriages work first we
0:01:43 need to do is we need to look at what is
0:01:46 a forced marriage and what is the
0:01:49 difference between rosemary and arranged
0:01:51 marriages arranged marriage is quite
0:01:54 common in the community and amongst
0:01:56 people in general and is quite accepted
0:01:58 amongst people so what are the two
0:02:00 differences so inshallah without me
0:02:04 going on too long I will hand over to
0:02:05 brother abdelbaset who will try to give
0:02:08 you an explanation or visi of these two
0:02:10 terms hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen
0:02:13 hamden cathedral by eben mubarak fe your
0:02:17 umbilical hemmed at the dock yo Robbie
0:02:20 locker hand in the real doc yo bellaca
0:02:24 hamed bad or a donkey or a Billiken
0:02:27 Hamed evident oh brother you're obese
0:02:29 Oliva seldom under nabina muhammad ali
0:02:32 mohammad wallah as well gee Muhammad
0:02:34 Wyler the riata Mohammad wireless happy
0:02:37 Mohammed were bad idea brother naman
0:02:42 asked a very important question which I
0:02:44 think will address many of the viewers
0:02:46 of this video directly will address
0:02:49 pretty much all of the Muslims or anyone
0:02:52 really with a man Asian African or
0:02:56 oriental background to some extent and I
0:02:59 think would interest many European
0:03:03 non-muslim listeners or viewers the
0:03:06 question is what is the difference if
0:03:12 there is one between forced and arranged
0:03:17 marriage I'd like to begin answering
0:03:21 that question by saying I'm going to be
0:03:24 looking at this specifically from an
0:03:25 Islamic or a shower area perspective
0:03:27 because I mean it's a word that's almost
0:03:29 it's being actively demonized by the
0:03:32 media Oh certainly governmental backed
0:03:37 media in the world the reason being that
0:03:39 people there's a form of intellectual
0:03:41 terrorism going on that people are
0:03:43 attempting to paint Islam or the Sharia
0:03:46 real Islam orthodox islam in an ugly
0:03:49 fashion so that people are distracted
0:03:50 from it because it serves the same
0:03:52 function now that communism did in for
0:03:57 the majority of 20 century it produced
0:03:58 it provides the only ideological
0:04:00 alternative to capitalism as a way of
0:04:02 life and that's what's going on Islam is
0:04:04 not a backward religion Islam and there
0:04:07 has no intentions of bringing us back to
0:04:08 the seventh century Islam did not begin
0:04:10 with our Prophet Muhammad may the peace
0:04:12 and blessings of Allah be upon him Islam
0:04:14 began with the creation of the pen which
0:04:16 occurred before the universe was created
0:04:19 Islam is the religion of nature nature
0:04:22 is Islam in Islam is nature I'd like to
0:04:25 make that first point and
0:04:27 that perspective gone to answer the
0:04:28 question the concept of forced marriages
0:04:31 have has actually been addressed new one
0:04:33 could say implicitly in the Quran but
0:04:35 explicitly by the Prophet Mohammed in
0:04:37 the two most authentic books of in Sunni
0:04:41 tradition Imam both imam bukhari and
0:04:44 muslim narrate a collection of a hadith
0:04:47 on the subject which i believe we're
0:04:48 going to go into more detail later on
0:04:50 but just as a summary of the topic the
0:04:52 hadith in muslim mentions that there was
0:04:55 a woman from the ants are the
0:04:56 inhabitants of the medina of Medina who
0:04:59 was forced and the word uses jabber
0:05:02 right so the the Arabic word for forced
0:05:04 marriages snicker Jay berry it's so
0:05:07 there is a term and the time was
0:05:08 discussed by the Muslim jurists the
0:05:10 Muslim scholars of Islam thousands of
0:05:12 years ago I mean over a thousand years
0:05:14 ago the issue has been dealt with it's
0:05:15 not a new issue that we need to suddenly
0:05:17 into an HD had or were County ruling on
0:05:19 Islam has spoken on this issue Allah and
0:05:21 His Messenger in particular have spoken
0:05:22 clearly on this issue so the issue in
0:05:26 the hadith was such that this man from
0:05:28 the unsel may allah be pleased with him
0:05:30 forced his matter well married his
0:05:32 daughter who was a virgin to a man and
0:05:36 she disliked this man she was not happy
0:05:40 with the situation so she went to
0:05:42 complain to our beloved prophet
0:05:43 sallallahu alayhi wasallam and he when
0:05:45 he heard of this he nullified the
0:05:47 marriage contract he said this is not a
0:05:48 marriage so that is in a nutshell the
0:05:52 definition of a forced marriage I mean
0:05:54 the definition nikka contract if one
0:05:56 studies the Sharia one of the Sharia
0:05:57 definitions legal definitions of a
0:05:59 marriage firstly I mean we have we
0:06:01 haven't even defined what I'm a marriage
0:06:02 is defined as a contract which makes the
0:06:04 two private parts of two people
0:06:06 permissible for each other because
0:06:07 generally that is not the rule but
0:06:09 obviously marriage changes that in Islam
0:06:11 so the question is a forced marriage is
0:06:13 where you force one of the parties be it
0:06:15 female by I've heard now it's happening
0:06:17 even two men that people go for a family
0:06:19 holiday to see the family in Pakistan
0:06:21 Bangladesh Arabia wherever and they end
0:06:23 up being kind of forced into marrying
0:06:26 you knows someone they don't want to
0:06:28 marry so whether you're a male or a
0:06:31 female what we learn from this teaching
0:06:33 of the Prophet peace be upon him is it
0:06:34 is forbidden it is haram in islam to
0:06:39 force your children
0:06:40 Mary those whom they don't want to so
0:06:44 that needs to be clear for all the
0:06:45 Muslim parents that may be listening or
0:06:48 hair of this address you must know that
0:06:51 our prophet muhammed sallalahu sudden
0:06:52 forbid this practice clearly it happened
0:06:54 amongst the Sahaba and he stamped it out
0:06:56 so the fact that it's happening now 14
0:06:59 in the 15th century of the hitter of the
0:07:00 prophets awesome should make us ashamed
0:07:02 if we claim to be from the followers and
0:07:04 the lovers of the prophets of the lion
0:07:05 sunland we should not dare to go against
0:07:08 his orders and we should remember what I
0:07:09 prophets and lance and I'm said to us
0:07:11 when he said and I believe the hadith is
0:07:12 a Muslim we said all on my own man would
0:07:14 enter paradise in limine yet but except
0:07:16 the one who refuses so the companions
0:07:18 were perplexed by this strange turn of
0:07:20 phrase and they said on who would who
0:07:21 would refuse from the ohm ohm o
0:07:23 messenger of allah peace and blessings
0:07:25 be upon him he said whoever obeys me
0:07:27 shall enter paradise and whoever
0:07:29 dissipated disobeys me he is the one who
0:07:30 has refused to enter paradise so I don't
0:07:33 know of a Muslim on this earth in fact I
0:07:35 don't know of a human being on this
0:07:36 earth who wouldn't want to be in
0:07:37 paradise so the roadmap to paradise is
0:07:40 marked down and we cannot expect we
0:07:42 cannot expect the harvest of paradise if
0:07:45 we sow the seeds of hellfire in this
0:07:47 life and disobeying the message of allah
0:07:49 and doing Haram is is selling those
0:07:51 seeds as to the question of arrangement
0:07:53 arrangement is an is a natural
0:07:55 phenomenon which exists even to this day
0:07:57 amongst the up amongst the upper echelon
0:07:59 of society of the united kingdom
0:08:02 certainly amongst the english
0:08:03 aristocracy and upper classes it's quite
0:08:06 common for a family of all to do family
0:08:07 or a family of noble blood to introduce
0:08:12 their son or their daughter to a another
0:08:15 member of that class it's done the
0:08:17 rounds the royal families of Europe to
0:08:18 this day it's done in Africa it's done
0:08:20 in Asia in India and not just in the
0:08:22 subcontinent it's done in China it's
0:08:24 done in Japan it's done all over the
0:08:26 world the fact that arranged marriage is
0:08:28 a strange cultural concept or viewed as
0:08:31 such in the UK for me or America or any
0:08:35 other part of the world indeed if to me
0:08:37 is a symptom of the breakdown of society
0:08:39 because generally in traditional society
0:08:41 this goes beyond Islam in a healthy
0:08:44 functioning society children are
0:08:46 nurtured and advised by their parents
0:08:49 and for the fact that a child wouldn't
0:08:52 even consider discussing
0:08:53 issue with their parents is socially
0:08:57 abnormal in fact it's abnormal to have
0:08:59 no arrangement that doesn't mean islam
0:09:01 forbids look Islam Islam is not anti
0:09:05 love you you can't help who you fall in
0:09:07 love with but the question is Islam has
0:09:10 guidance and mercy in the legislation of
0:09:13 the Sharia for all situations so there
0:09:16 is an Islamic method which is
0:09:17 arrangement arrangement is fine that
0:09:19 there's nothing wrong with that in fact
0:09:20 it is according to some scholars a
0:09:23 conditional obligation fact for the
0:09:25 majority of schools in Sunni thought for
0:09:27 the woman to gain the permission or to
0:09:29 be guided by hawalli her got legal
0:09:31 guardian that is the father if he is
0:09:32 present or the elder brothers if they
0:09:34 are present if not that becomes the
0:09:35 state this will fondly or for Islamic
0:09:37 Authority I hope that is unless your
0:09:39 brother I think that yeah that's touched
0:09:41 upon Saint quite important that from
0:09:43 what you've said from the hadith the
0:09:45 hadith seem to be very clear that the
0:09:47 prophets are some of forbade this action
0:09:49 or forced marriage so my question really
0:09:53 is if as Muslims we are somebody or
0:09:57 should be people who follow the Quran
0:09:59 and follow the Sunnah then how is it so
0:10:02 predominant in society today that we see
0:10:05 people going against this and people you
0:10:08 know for signature did it happens this
0:10:11 face it this problem does happen in
0:10:13 society and it isn't a is not a problem
0:10:16 within the Muslim site it is there but
0:10:19 why is the question that needs to be
0:10:21 really raised and asked why are people
0:10:24 doing this if our prophet sal our solemn
0:10:26 said to look this is a forbidden act why
0:10:30 are people going against here his
0:10:32 teachings you know I said this is the
0:10:34 next part we were only in see is this a
0:10:36 cultural problem in our own mud that we
0:10:38 find is this a problem earn you know
0:10:41 through people not knowing what is the
0:10:44 problem why has it come about and truth
0:10:47 if it is a cultural what should our
0:10:48 response batavus how can we stand up
0:10:51 against this issue and show people
0:10:53 because the bigger problem is not just
0:10:55 intelius externally this is being used
0:10:58 as something to attack Islam and people
0:11:01 are using this aspect of Muslims having
0:11:04 forced marriages to attack the deen of
0:11:05 allah so
0:11:07 we move forward is how do we break this
0:11:09 down now into our society ya na dakla
0:11:14 Ferb that's an excellent question and in
0:11:16 fact it addresses probably one of the
0:11:19 deepest poisons that's present in the
0:11:21 Omaha masala liars and I'm today just
0:11:24 before I touch on that topic I want to
0:11:26 quote the hadith the barb in sahih
0:11:29 al-bukhari for those who are interested
0:11:31 is in Arabic either as our genetical
0:11:36 were here carry her fur nikka nikka
0:11:39 Hubble module una caja murdered an if
0:11:42 someone the literal the topic that imam
0:11:46 bukhari the title the imam bukhari puts
0:11:48 to this chapter is the section regarding
0:11:51 the wedding of a child while they are in
0:11:56 a state of disliking it means that this
0:11:59  __  this marriage is rejected and the
0:12:02 hadith is number 4845 inside jamias hey
0:12:06 avi mamun bhai or him a lot how death
0:12:09 knights marion on a hadith new malik and
0:12:11 abdulrahman bin Al Hassan mineral cause
0:12:14 him and I be he and Abdul Rahman or
0:12:17 majima abney you'd been jeriah and he's
0:12:22 an bent physical freedom I'm sorry yeah
0:12:26 and about her jawahar were here Thebe
0:12:31 kakera had garlic feta to Rasulullah
0:12:34 he's online salam for Donna kaha right
0:12:37 and it mentions that this hadith is
0:12:39 strength this hadith is sound The
0:12:41 Messenger of Allah snows did this it
0:12:44 mentions that the food chain is from it
0:12:47 smile he said he heard from amber rahman
0:12:49 with awesome who heard from his father
0:12:51 from abdul rahman and it was gathered up
0:12:53 also by his son who mentioned that a
0:12:55 woman came from the the Assad Ian
0:12:59 happens in Medina and her and mentioned
0:13:01 that her father had wed her and she
0:13:05 while she was a he but she was a virgin
0:13:07 she had not been married before and she
0:13:09 disliked this man she's not happy with
0:13:10 this marriage so when she came so she
0:13:13 came to the prophets now sell him when
0:13:14 he heard of this he said this  __  is
0:13:16 not valid so simple straight the fact of
0:13:19 the matter is if you are forcing your
0:13:21 children
0:13:21 into a  __  they can walk away from
0:13:24 that any time so for anyone who's in a
0:13:25 situation of force margin and feeling
0:13:27 that all but you know I'm married is
0:13:30 that you're not married is family you
0:13:31 can leave my advice to you is to go to
0:13:34 any if the if you live in a Muslim
0:13:37 community go to the Muslim community go
0:13:39 to the imam of the masjid go to any good
0:13:41 practicing brothers and sisters that you
0:13:43 know and ask them to help you if you
0:13:46 can't do that then I would suggest you
0:13:48 get some professional help if you don't
0:13:51 need to be in that situation there is a
0:13:52 way out and the biggest way out for
0:13:54 anyone who's in that situation is make
0:13:55 go out o Allah that he gives you a
0:13:57 suburb or a way out and protects you
0:13:59 because the biggest psychological
0:14:00 problem that people are placed in in
0:14:02 this situation is they worry about their
0:14:03 families you've got to realize if it if
0:14:06 you don't truly dislike it if it's like
0:14:09 I could marry someone better but this is
0:14:10 okay then that's a decision you have to
0:14:12 make you an adult right and that's your
0:14:15 decision as an adult but if you really
0:14:16 are in a torture situation the prophets
0:14:20 nasim told this summer that you should
0:14:23 not oppress others neither should you
0:14:25 allow yourself to be oppressed both our
0:14:26 sins so if you are in a press situation
0:14:28 it is upon you as a Muslim to establish
0:14:31 your own dignity and get out of that
0:14:33 situation that's my advice for anyone
0:14:34 who has or shall we hope Allah not but
0:14:37 is in that situation if someone's listen
0:14:39 to this and is in a state where they're
0:14:40 in a forced marriage yet there are ways
0:14:41 to get out you can contact us you can
0:14:43 convict get some help each other and may
0:14:45 allah help you from your difficulty as
0:14:48 to the regard of regarding the issue of
0:14:50 why are forced marriage is occurring I
0:14:52 mean I I thought about this and the
0:14:54 conclusion that I suppose when studying
0:14:58 from the Quran and the Sunnah and
0:15:00 speaking and learning from the people of
0:15:03 knowledge and the people of the Dean
0:15:04 Aldean the conclusion that I've come to
0:15:07 you and I'm sure that but the gnomon
0:15:09 will agree with me is because people
0:15:10 have I mean it's summed up this matter
0:15:12 to be honest when I was doing research
0:15:14 on how to answer this question I I
0:15:16 realized that there's not just one or
0:15:18 two or three or four eyes this whole
0:15:19 sections of the Quran on this books have
0:15:22 been written on the topic up to as to
0:15:24 why and the reason why is because it
0:15:28 summed up in certain hazard where our
0:15:29 loss of Hanover Tyana says total hatchet
0:15:34 but there are also
0:15:35 ashita no regime well at econo Calladine
0:15:39 anasso lava and sir home and foster home
0:15:41 hola oka home on fancy phone and do not
0:15:44 be amongst those people or like those
0:15:46 people who forgot Allah and Allah made
0:15:48 them forget them their own cells they
0:15:50 are the faster porn they are the open
0:15:52 new rebellious sinners now if we look at
0:15:54 the disease of the envelope the OMA if
0:15:56 we study our history look I mean o
0:15:59 Muhammad think about this you are the
0:16:01 most honored noble and successful
0:16:03 civilization in human history we Islam
0:16:06 did not begin 40 or 50 years ago Islam
0:16:10 did not even begin 1500 years ago Islam
0:16:13 Islam is submission to the creation is
0:16:15 the submission of the creation to their
0:16:17 Creator who is none other than Allah now
0:16:19 the Ummah of Muhammad is history is it's
0:16:22 15 centuries long for the majority of
0:16:24 that history we were the most powerful
0:16:25 civilization on earth even when
0:16:29 historians look at our civilization they
0:16:31 call it a miracle they say nowhere else
0:16:33 in history has people gone from zero in
0:16:36 the Arabian Peninsula they had no
0:16:37 civilization there really I mean look
0:16:38 the errands before Islam I'm an hour
0:16:40 back and said it's um I'm not being rude
0:16:41 if anyone objects to this it's a fact we
0:16:44 were known for as the people was a very
0:16:47 eloquent language some cracking poetry
0:16:49 and having a good scrap in the desert
0:16:52 every now then we had no some
0:16:53 civilizational contribution to humanity
0:16:55 no scientists no real armies to so speak
0:16:59 off you know we just used to like to
0:17:01 fire my stop time we were generous
0:17:02 that's pretty much what you can say
0:17:03 about the Arabs within a generation of
0:17:05 the profits than I sell em coming you
0:17:07 have empires which stood for thousands
0:17:11 of years the sassanid empire in Persia
0:17:13 the Byzantium my falling in the time of
0:17:16 the Sahaba so something happened there
0:17:18 and as Muslims our belief is that the
0:17:20 prophets on the live Sanlam was blessed
0:17:22 we were blessed with the prophets nice
0:17:24 emblem and he received the revelation of
0:17:26 the Quran and the Sunnah and it was
0:17:27 spread on the earth and it changed the
0:17:29 world so getting to the topic the way we
0:17:33 see Islam is not the way the Sahaba see
0:17:35 Islam as a number I'm not saying that
0:17:37 there's people in the OMA who don't see
0:17:38 it like that from the LA there are many
0:17:40 but the majority of the AMA does not
0:17:42 refer to align his messenger for its
0:17:44 daily judgments so when we think about
0:17:46 them we want to get up in Mary's but
0:17:48 it's the first thing we look
0:17:49 the Quran is the first thing we look at
0:17:51 the Sun nur is the first person we go to
0:17:53 an island from the ornament of Islam
0:17:55 when we want to get the new car than we
0:17:57 do we just go to our mom with the local
0:17:58 mustard or anyone who's going to try to
0:17:59 ridiculous amount of money for providing
0:18:01 a simple service or do we go to a
0:18:04 scholar who understands the subject I
0:18:05 mean our whole scale is wrong a laughs
0:18:07 of Hanna what Allah says yeah you had
0:18:10 latina a minus at the Allah at the other
0:18:12 surah all in mm income for internas
0:18:14 actively shape for a dual allahi water
0:18:16 soon in kuntum top- Nabila hirayama
0:18:19 laughing they're like oh hey Rula San
0:18:21 attack wheeler a lot of Anatole
0:18:22 addresses the believers every Muslim who
0:18:24 listen to this subject listen up because
0:18:26 Allah is addressing you o you who
0:18:27 believe so if you believe in Islam if
0:18:30 you believe in the Quran Allah is
0:18:31 addressing you specifically obey Allah
0:18:34 Allah well I till were soon and obey the
0:18:37 messengers of Allah Almighty know what
0:18:39 they're all in I'm remain calm and obey
0:18:41 that people have authority amongst you
0:18:42 and the defeat of this ayah from some of
0:18:45 this Harbor and Allah knows best I
0:18:46 believe his even I'm bass he said a ona
0:18:49 ma I'm at one tomorrow the only number
0:18:53 the people of authority or the other
0:18:55 scholars and the political leaders of
0:18:56 the Muslims and by that I do not mean
0:18:57 the political leaders are in charge the
0:19:00 crooks are in charge in the Muslim world
0:19:01 they are not the political leaders of
0:19:02 the Muslims the leaders of the Umara of
0:19:04 Islam the people who implement the
0:19:06 Sharia these are the people we are
0:19:07 ordered to obey by Allah and then Allah
0:19:10 says in  __  my internets acting for
0:19:12 sure and if you have any manner of
0:19:13 difference you have anything that you
0:19:14 differ on return it back to Allah and
0:19:16 His Messenger now our last speak to us
0:19:18 directly by the Quran and he speaks to
0:19:20 us indirectly by the prophets in London
0:19:22 because his Sunnah as the Quran says
0:19:23 were my antique wine in hawa in Halawa
0:19:26 you knew ha he does not speak from his
0:19:28 desires it is only a revelation revealed
0:19:30 so the sooner is a source of revelation
0:19:32 in the Quran right from the Quran
0:19:33 directly and anyone who rejects the
0:19:35 sauna or they AHA d as a source of
0:19:38 Revelation is not a Muslim it's as
0:19:40 simple as that now getting to the topic
0:19:42 so i asked you by Allah what any Muslim
0:19:46 parent have this problem of forcing them
0:19:49 let's have a look psychologically why
0:19:50 did the parents for some they don't look
0:19:51 I don't know of many Muslim parents of
0:19:54 any Muslim parents actually for my
0:19:55 person experienced who hate their
0:19:56 children it's a human thing animals love
0:19:58 their children right it's a human thing
0:20:00 to it's a natural animal
0:20:02 instinct to love your children so
0:20:04 they're obviously trying to do what they
0:20:06 think is best for their children but it
0:20:07 is not the right thing for your children
0:20:10 for some I mean think about it people
0:20:11 why do you want to torture your children
0:20:13 who would be happy with putting their
0:20:15 children through pain no one it causes
0:20:17 us pain when we see our children in pain
0:20:18 right so why would you do it you would
0:20:20 do it because your culture dictates that
0:20:23 this is the right thing to do right its
0:20:25 culture this is the issue now I can
0:20:27 speak from my point of view I'm a dual
0:20:29 citizen I'm a British citizen and I'm a
0:20:31 Pakistani citizen I'm married to a
0:20:32 Pakistani citizen rubrics and as well
0:20:34 but the question is look the reason why
0:20:36 its force and it wasn't a forced
0:20:37 marriage al hamdulillah ok now the
0:20:41 reason why they do it is they will be
0:20:42 psychologically pressured by societal
0:20:45 pressures which i think is a lot very
0:20:46 difficult for europeans to understand
0:20:47 the the weight of these pressures in
0:20:49 Pakistani society I've been lived there
0:20:50 i know i can fathom it I think you need
0:20:52 a PhD to understand this stuff properly
0:20:54 and even then it's a subject in its own
0:20:55 right but they get if they feel
0:20:59 pressured by the family and then there's
0:21:01 this concert Provenza which is an
0:21:02 Islamic concept but it's misconstrued
0:21:03 that they will feel that they will be
0:21:05 denigrated in society if they do not
0:21:06 marry back to Pakistanis in Pakistan or
0:21:09 amongst their family and such like this
0:21:10 I mean if you study this the other thing
0:21:12 for those people out there who are young
0:21:13 people from the Asian subcontinent or
0:21:16 following or the Indian subcontinent
0:21:18 were following falling into this houston
0:21:20 i think the marriage is amongst the
0:21:21 Sahaba there were over 10,000 there were
0:21:23 no less than six or eight between first
0:21:25 cousins it was a socially abnormal thing
0:21:27 amongst early muslims the other thing is
0:21:29 if you go to Pakistan us your own
0:21:30 cousins or ask your own family how many
0:21:32 of them are married to their first
0:21:33 cousins the rate of people marrying
0:21:35 first cousins in Pakistan in particular
0:21:37 in the 90s there wasn't it's less than
0:21:39 eight percent it's socially abnormal
0:21:41 most people do not marry their first
0:21:42 cousins if you go to Pakistani
0:21:44 immigrants within the United Kingdom the
0:21:47 rate shoots up to over twenty five or
0:21:48 thirty percent why is this
0:21:50 psychologically what's happening is the
0:21:52 parents feel bad that they've traveled
0:21:54 the other to travel the world and are
0:21:55 living their comfortable lives in
0:21:56 England while this her family is in
0:21:58 messed up all pakistan and they feel
0:22:00 that if their children do not have some
0:22:02 link back into the family the family
0:22:04 will basically be separate from the
0:22:05 family so it's a psychological guilt
0:22:08 trip from the parents that are really
0:22:09 inflict upon the children and that does
0:22:11 not mean i am not advising Muslim
0:22:13 children here and you know we're almost
0:22:15 I'm sure Ramona
0:22:16 parents to disobey their parents that is
0:22:18 one of the greatest sins in Islam no
0:22:19 listen to your parents but if they're
0:22:21 forcing you to marry someone that you
0:22:23 are not happy to marry you are not
0:22:25 obliged at all Islam to follow this so
0:22:27 top of that in quite some depth and
0:22:29 you've covered quite a few important
0:22:31 issues there so what we what I have
0:22:34 taken reason I hope what the audience
0:22:35 will take from this year's as well that
0:22:38 this problem of this false marriage is
0:22:40 not an Islamic problem it is a cultural
0:22:43 problem is people have stopped referring
0:22:47 to Allah and His Messenger for their
0:22:52 rulings and their way of life and to
0:22:53 live their life it's quite ironic
0:22:55 because it is the same people that you
0:22:57 will see that during certain times of
0:23:01 years they will get very happy in doing
0:23:03 certain things for as long that when the
0:23:05 Prophet SAW son's birthday they will go
0:23:07 all out they will go out I'm not saying
0:23:09 it's wrong before he wants to know know
0:23:11 there's this issue on awareness cussing
0:23:13 that issue but i would say you will see
0:23:15 to what extent they will go but when you
0:23:17 put in front of these same people that
0:23:20 they're happy for the prophets and
0:23:21 solemn on this issue and on many other
0:23:24 issues is contrary to the way they're
0:23:26 acting they put up a rebuttal and
0:23:28 they'll say all no no baby you're wrong
0:23:30 no we're not wrong because we are not
0:23:33 saying this column and Allah is saying
0:23:36 this to you colonel so what we've really
0:23:39 broken down in this little 10-15 minute
0:23:41 discussion is that look first and
0:23:43 foremost false marriage is not part of
0:23:45 Islam and has nothing to Islam Islam
0:23:47 forbids this action it's not completely
0:23:50 forbids anyone forcing marriages on
0:23:53 their children secondly we have figured
0:23:55 out that this problem is a cultural
0:23:57 issue where people have stopped
0:23:59 referring to crime has on them so this
0:24:03 is the underlying problem in young mud
0:24:04 today and this one aspect is just one
0:24:07 aspect discussing today but we will go
0:24:09 on to discuss other issues as well which
0:24:11 all lead back to the same point correct
0:24:13 or not that where people have abandoned
0:24:15 the following and the teachings of Islam
0:24:17 and we will touch inshallah in many in
0:24:20 future weeks on other issues further so
0:24:23 really just in a nutshell we are in
0:24:25 about 23 minutes how do you suggest we
0:24:28 solve this problem or more important
0:24:30 how do we break this mentality which is
0:24:33 predominant amongst a you know Asian
0:24:36 community you know this all Gunga Din
0:24:38 mentality well I mean I mean it's it's a
0:24:43 funny word that's why a lot of wear but
0:24:45 it's true unfortunately it's true
0:24:46 applies well today yeah much are they
0:24:49 spoke well known you asked two points of
0:24:50 how can we solve the problem and with
0:24:53 specifics of this issue of the placing a
0:24:56 culture which is an Islamic above the
0:24:59 rules of Islam to answer that question I
0:25:02 I would begin by saying two things to
0:25:05 answer the first question how do we
0:25:06 solve the problems that's actually a
0:25:08 question that I am don't feel I'm
0:25:11 capable of answering with him is that we
0:25:13 have but i would say something that one
0:25:15 of the greatest muslims that ever lived
0:25:16 said mr malik rahim allah he was asked
0:25:19 the same question that you actually
0:25:20 asked how will this ummah be revived
0:25:23 when it is fallen and he replied with
0:25:26 golden words and may allah give him a
0:25:28 great reward for these words he said
0:25:30 that which revive the early part of this
0:25:31 omer will revive the latter part of it
0:25:33 and what revived or brought to life the
0:25:35 early part of this amantha sahaba and
0:25:37 this Aleph was nothing other than the
0:25:38 Quran and the Sunnah and action upon it
0:25:40 and sincerity one of the amounts of the
0:25:42 salif was asked the hardest thing in his
0:25:44 thumb and he replied if loss sincerity
0:25:46 it's a simple concept that's difficult
0:25:48 implement if we are sincere Muslims if
0:25:50 we are Muslims like the Maharaja rumor
0:25:52 Muslims like the people of Makkah who
0:25:55 were blessed by being the early muslims
0:25:57 around the prophets nurse Allah more
0:25:59 Muslims if we are Muslims if we desire
0:26:01 to be Muslims like the ants are run the
0:26:03 allahu alem right if we are designed to
0:26:05 be amongst those people who helped the
0:26:06 messenger of our last nite salon when
0:26:08 the prophet who the prophets now some
0:26:10 said when he when the people in medina
0:26:12 feared that the Prophet was set up back
0:26:13 in his home Makka he said did you not
0:26:15 shelter me right when all had abandoned
0:26:18 me did you not give me support when no
0:26:20 one else would I mean he bought them to
0:26:21 tears with his statement and he said I
0:26:24 will never abandon you think about that
0:26:26 imagine being that beloved to the
0:26:28 prophets in that salon right we can be
0:26:30 like that the good news to the or- we
0:26:31 can be like that it's simple follow
0:26:33 Allah and His Messenger like the Sahaba
0:26:35 follow the lioness messenger and you
0:26:36 will be raised amongst the Alana's
0:26:38 messenger in his companions you will be
0:26:40 a rent maze amongst the Companions if
0:26:42 you love the prophet saw some like veil
0:26:44 him right so that's as simple as that so
0:26:47 as to addressing the specific quote
0:26:48 issue of culture I mean the term culture
0:26:52 is vague I mean because obviously the
0:26:54 offer in Arabic so cough it in order to
0:26:56 write is this concept into term Islam
0:26:58 has nothing no problem with cops like
0:27:00 for example the brother may dress
0:27:02 somewhere I'm a dressing on the way
0:27:03 other Muslims and other parts of the
0:27:04 world may dress in surah kameez or a
0:27:05 phobe or you know various other dresses
0:27:08 that isn't clothing and cultural life
0:27:11 example moistures look different in so
0:27:12 you go to masjid in that car in senegal
0:27:14 it looks so different to my students and
0:27:16 it looks different to muster than UK
0:27:17 looks different to muscles in the world
0:27:19 these cultural expressions are languages
0:27:21 our colors are cultural expressions the
0:27:23 food we lie to eat our last panelled in
0:27:25 fact in some sources of law in sumner
0:27:27 it's a source of sharia I'd like you
0:27:29 take guidance on of the hallow fees and
0:27:32 the Mallik East use it as a source of
0:27:33 guidance in law right so it's it's an
0:27:36 assault from a solid fact that some of
0:27:37 Allison are use however so Islam has no
0:27:40 problem with that however what you're
0:27:42 using I would Islamically I'm looking
0:27:44 for the term in in fip to describe what
0:27:49 you are describing as culture is
0:27:51 actually jellia no because for example
0:27:54 there are negative aspects of culture in
0:27:56 the UK for example we have had
0:27:57 historically and it's not something that
0:27:58 anyone should be proud about we have
0:28:00 higher at the highest rate of teenage
0:28:01 pregnancy in Europe and have had so for
0:28:03 the last 20 years which means that girls
0:28:06 and boys are doing things that they're
0:28:07 not allowed to do in Islam and Muslim
0:28:09 girls are getting involved in this
0:28:10 unfortunately as well right and then
0:28:11 there you know the natural result is
0:28:13 happening and then lives erect right
0:28:15 family's honors are destroyed a woman
0:28:16 poor woman is very burdened with a
0:28:19 difficult burden a great responsibility
0:28:21 of the child and the guy's not around
0:28:23 right so these problems are happening
0:28:24 and these problems will happen why
0:28:25 because marriage is an institution is
0:28:27 broken down in this country right the
0:28:28 majority of marriages in the United
0:28:30 Kingdom and in failure are you divorced
0:28:32 now Islam doesn't forbid divorce but it
0:28:34 doesn't look kindly upon it divorce is
0:28:35 not is the last option in marriage not
0:28:37 the first option so in specifics I can
0:28:40 speak in terms of reference for the
0:28:43 immigrant community here in the United
0:28:44 Kingdom now has second-generation
0:28:47 immigrants the problem that we have is
0:28:51 where betwixt in between let me what let
0:28:54 me explain what I mean by that on the
0:28:56 one hand we have a deep cultural
0:28:58 influence mostly from our parents and
0:28:59 our families which is fundamentally
0:29:01 pakistani or asian or indian or
0:29:03 Bangladeshi or Arab or something else in
0:29:06 culture right not not European apart
0:29:10 from those few select groups of brothers
0:29:12 who are from Bosnia from from Kosovo
0:29:15 from Albania right so they have a non
0:29:17 British culture and then there's those
0:29:20 people who have a culture and we
0:29:23 obviously we grow up in the United
0:29:24 Kingdom we speak English we have a
0:29:26 culture that is an opposition to the
0:29:28 culture that is brought over from our
0:29:30 parents this puts us in a strange
0:29:32 position we don't know how to culturally
0:29:34 act we act out ended up acting both ways
0:29:39 the problem is simple for the for the
0:29:42 young people or old people whoever is
0:29:44 listening here for the parents of the
0:29:45 children firstly to the children of this
0:29:46 number so my brothers and sisters in the
0:29:48 United Kingdom I say this to you by
0:29:50 Allah he has blessed you with the
0:29:52 greatest gift that you could ever
0:29:54 conceive of of having you have been
0:29:57 blessed with the keys to paradise and
0:29:58 the keys to paradise are none other than
0:30:00 the statement and the belief in that
0:30:02 statement la illaha illallah muhammadur
0:30:05 rasulullah sallallahu alayhi violent
0:30:07 morality wasallam that statement is
0:30:08 worth more than its weight in gold in
0:30:11 fact it's worth more than the universe
0:30:13 and what it contains my evidence for
0:30:15 this is the hadith that is in Qatar
0:30:17 Bahrain bahadi or the prophet in a
0:30:18 solemn sit narrates something from Musa
0:30:21 Musa speaks to a loss of Hannah dollar
0:30:23 and he says oh my lord give me some
0:30:25 words that I can worship you by special
0:30:27 words and Allah says to him will ya musa
0:30:30 la illaha illallah Oh Moses a la illaha
0:30:33 illallah and he responds me said all of
0:30:35 your slave say this and he says o Musa
0:30:37 if the heavens and the earth if the
0:30:39 universe was placed on one side of a
0:30:41 scale and that you know her in la la was
0:30:44 placed on another side of the scale that
0:30:45 you know how in the law would be worth
0:30:46 more this is how important lat in our in
0:30:50 our lives take your Shahada seriously my
0:30:52 brothers and my sisters take your
0:30:56 Shahada seriously be sincere to it it's
0:30:59 the key to paradise if I told you now I
0:31:01 have a key physical kita I'll give you a
0:31:03 key or I'll give you an application you
0:31:05 download this application in a
0:31:06 smartphone you go to Paradise who
0:31:08 wouldn't download this application and
0:31:09 really look after it you would make sure
0:31:11 the phone was
0:31:11 our battery you would be always keeping
0:31:14 that phone in your heart by your side
0:31:15 because you know this is your key to
0:31:16 paradise la Ilah illallah Mohammad
0:31:18 Rasool Allah is the key to paradise take
0:31:20 it seriously to the parents of this
0:31:22 Ummah to my dear respected elders lari
0:31:25 that we have been blessed by being born
0:31:27 Muslims our parents being Muslims our
0:31:29 family being Muslim let us take Islam
0:31:31 seriously and give it to you Subhan
0:31:34 Allah many of us we came to this country
0:31:36 in search of dunya and Allah left us to
0:31:38 Donia look at our pair of children we're
0:31:40 not happy with the way that they're
0:31:41 acting it's not in accordance they don't
0:31:43 give the parents to respect that we gave
0:31:45 our parents we were taught by which is
0:31:48 the correct thing in Islamic culture all
0:31:50 of us as a non ma the elders and the and
0:31:52 and the youth we have to as it as an
0:31:54 umma as a community in the United
0:31:55 Kingdom return to a lioness messenger
0:31:57 when we do this Allah gives us a promise
0:31:59 he will bless us in our wealth in our
0:32:01 family and he will give us support and
0:32:03 victory over those who oppose us you've
0:32:06 got to realize as a Muslim you are
0:32:08 bulletproof if you have a lot with you
0:32:10 that's really what I could say on the
0:32:12 subject of assalamu alaykum
0:32:13 warahmatullah just off like a brothel
0:32:19 boss it marshal I hope that has covered
0:32:22 all the bases that we went out to
0:32:23 discuss I hope those of you listening
0:32:26 have found it very beneficial inshallah
0:32:28 we'll gonna aim to be coming back every
0:32:31 couple of weeks with new videos shaolong
0:32:33 discussing topics that are quite hot
0:32:37 under news and in the media dealing with
0:32:39 Islam and discussing and breaking down
0:32:41 the misconceptions that are out there so
0:32:43 in Charlotte stay tuned keep coming back
0:32:45 to our channel on YouTube the islamic
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0:32:51 and inshallah we'll leave it there and
0:32:54 would have thought to hearing your
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0:33:00 reckoning Langley
0:33:05 only what I wouldn't come to you now
0:33:08 feel what I came for me yeah am i an
0:33:16 evil feeling only 1i along in my young
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